TOP FIVE DECISIONS IN A DIVORCE CASE
1. DO I NEED A LAWYER
If you are going to get divorced you need a lawyer to make sure that everything that takes place is fair. A lawyer is not emotionally involved and can think long term for your benefit. Most of the time in a divorce a person cannot see 2 to 5 years down the road due to the stomach burn they must suffer through while going through the divorcing process. Another reason to have a lawyer is to have a person that is only concerned about your goals and what you want out of the case.
2. HOW DO I INSURE THE KIDS DO NOT SUFFER
Divorce is always harder on those who do not have resources to deal with the flood of emotions that go along with the process. Children are the most at risk from being victims of exposure to unwanted consequences of a divorce. Several modalities exist to allow for a parent to shield a child from the stressors of divorce. Parents need to make decisions based on the long term effects on their children.
3. HOW MUCH DO I WANT TO INVEST IN THE CASE
So you have decided that your marriage is over. You have talked with your lawyer about your case. Now you must decide how much you want to invest in the case. The investment will include money of course, but you must also decide how much emotional investment you have available to spend to attain your goals. Having defined goals before undertaking your case is equally important. Simply saying I want to get divorced and hiring a lawyer is not enough. To successfully come out of a divorce quickly and with as little damage to you and your children as possible requires you to set benchmarks for what you need to accomplish within the divorce process.
4. WHAT IS MY TIME FRAME
A divorce case can drag on for years if you do not decide on what kind of time frame you are willing to accept. This also allows your lawyer to make decisions on how long he can fight with the other side. Time is a tool that can be used by the skilled professional for various issues in shepherding a client through a divorce case.
5. WHAT ARE MY GOALS-WHERE DO I WANT TO LAND
Whenever a person undertakes action that will be life altering, we always advise the client to define what they are trying to accomplish. Getting divorced is one important goal, but that goal is the tip of the iceberg. Other decisions that are important are:
- Where will I live
- What will Custody look like
- How do we split up the money
- How will I survive financially
- Who gets the house
- What about my 401(k) and other retirement
Having defined goals will save time, money, and mistakes that can cost you for years.